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Help!

I recently had some family visit and spent a lot of time with them. It was great for them to meet my newest daughter, and wonderful for my oldest daughter to see family again. My husband couldn’t take off from work for the first week of their visit, so it was just the girls and I driving to Kahala every day for the entire day. It was very interesting to watch my family trying to jump to my assistance whenever I tried to do anything

It was about the third day before one of my aunts stopped mid action (I can’t remember if she was changing the baby, making the oldest a sandwich, or helping me get stuff to the car) and said, “Man, it’s a good thing you are so independent! I never would have been this calm and collected alone with two babies!”

That stopped me. I mean, I knew I was independent – I always have been. But I hadn’t thought about it in relation to being a parent.

I did notice that after the aquarium when my uncle and cousin tried to help me load the girls and their stuff back in the car, I did it myself. And every time we arrived at and left the house they were renting, I was greeted and escorted by people asking what they could do despite my protests of being able to get everything. When we hiked Makapu’u, my uncle took the stroller amid my complaints and my aunts walked with Cailin.

It was very odd.

It’s not that my husband isn’t helpful – believe me, he’s great. He does everything he can to help me with the girls. But he’s so busy, works such long hours, and is randomly gone on trips that he’s just not here much. So when the girls and I go places, normally it is just me and the girls. I’m the one who has to make sure that we have everything needed for both of them – diapers, wipes, change of clothes, soccer ball, ballet outfit, bathing suit, sunscreen, etc. I have to make it fit nicely in the car. I’m the one who has to lug all that wherever we are going. I have to get it all out of the car and to wherever in one trip. While it’s only been two months that I’ve been doing this with Madelyn, I’ve been playing this game with Cailin for quite some time.

And I’m used to it. I got it. I CAN DO IT.

Apparently, not only can I do it, but I don’t accept help gracefully. My uncle at one point said something along the lines of, ‘Let me put the damn stroller in the car before I get yelled at for not helping you again!’ Oh. Ok. It’s not a bad thing to accept help – I am just not used to it.

Which left me wondering – was it so hard for me because I’m just very independent, or because I’m married to a Marine? What do you think?

Kitchen Dreams

I have a dream.

No, no, it’s nothing that big and grand. Nor is it nearly so compassionate and selfless.

I just want to own a bakery.

I can see it in my head – big comfy chairs, piles of books in case someone wants to read while waiting, display cases with all my yummy creations, and the coolest kitchen you could imagine.

I don’t dream of shoes and purses (though I do enjoy those…and my husband would say I don’t dream of them because I have every single one ever made, but he’s a man. He doesn’t get it.). I dream of double ovens and French door refrigerators with two freezers. I could spend hours in Macy’s kitchen section, drooling over the whisks and pans. I regularly try to convince my husband I need a kitchen blowtorch. (Seriously, guys, it’s the best way to make a crème brulee.) He’s hesitant so far.

I’ve already appointed my husband as the general manager of my dream bakery, because all I want to do is bake. I love playing with recipes and guessing on ingredients and adjusting and creating and hoping it turns out ok. I’ve made a few stinkers – please no one ask my husband about the orange French toast. To this day he’ll gag at the thought of ginger in ANYTHING. – but most of the time they come out alright.

It’s taken a while for me to get comfortable making stuff up – and I’m still not totally at ease with it. It’s intimidating to try and create something. My husband had to work for a while to convince me that the biggest problem if I mess up is that we all will have eaten something gross. How’s that going to hurt us? Once I accepted that, I have been a lot calmer and more creative. I hope to one day create a dessert as popular as, say, the chocolate chip cookie. It’s a long shot, but that’s what a dream is all about.

Until then, I will just keep dreaming, testing out recipes, and planning out that kitchen.

So tell me. What’s your biggest dream?

How can Military Wives work from Home?

Military Wives Work From Home

Having four children and a constantly deploying husband doesn’t allow me to pursue a traditional career path. In fact, the last time I worked for a company was in 2007 as a banker for our local credit union. Fast forward to 2011, and I started wondering how I could keep the house together and the kids cared for while still adding to our household income.

While there are many different ways that military wives work from home, I’m going to focus on some of the best starting points for newcomers! MLMs, or multi-level marketing companies, allow military spouses to market, sell, and distribute their products without the hassle of having to start from scratch. If you know anything about the top MLMs, you’ll know that there are many great options. I’ve found success with Scentsy because I enjoy their products, have a friendly team leader, and really like the company.

Read below to find out about some of the top MLMs for military spouses, and how they’ve enabled other military wives to work from home.

Avon Consulting

Avon is commonly known as a reputable make-up company, however their product line includes skincare, accessories, bags, clothing, shoes and fragrances as well. Military wife, Missy Snyder, has enjoyed working as an Avon consultant.

I can help people with a variety of things from skin care to fragrances to clothing and shoes. I keep myself in serious stock! It was only $10 to sign up as a consultant, so I signed up. Viola! I have a ton of make-up!

According to MLM Rankings, Avon sits at #1 among the top companies for at-home consultants. Learn more about Avon or Contact Missy!

HerbaLife Distributing

HerbaLife is a supplemental diet and nutritional program made from all natural ingredients. Income can be earned by signing up as an independent distributor. As a distributor, you receive a percentage discount depending on your distributor level. The distributor pays the percentage price and resells to the customer at a retail price. Military wife, Kiesha Brown, chose HerbaLife because it helped her not only lose 36 pounds, but she now experiences a new-found level of energy and health.

I wanted the chance to give other people the results that I have received from this incredible product.

HerbaLife has a reputation for promoting weight loss while increasing energy. I’ve personally heard many success stories. If you’d like more information about HerbaLife, contact Kiesha Brown!

Independent BeachBody Coaching

Beachbody is America’s largest health and fitness company behind some of the best supplements and home-workout programs such as Shakeology, P90X, Turbo Fire, and Insanity. Working with BeachBody can be immensely rewarding. Camp Pendleton wife and Independent BeachBody Coach Maria Maciocia knows from experience. Once weighing over 210 pounds, Maria accomplished an amazing transformation to nearly 120 pounds! Click here to read more about her story.

I chose this career path after finding a great passion for helping others through documenting my very own weight-loss transformation. The passion grew into a dream, and from there I just knew deep down that I had to coach. For me, there is nothing more rewarding than helping people transform their lives and bodies!

Maria’s story alone is incredible, but visiting any one of her blogs, Facebook pages, or talking to her is a reality check on just how possible it is to become successful when military wives work from home.

Thirty-One Gifts Consulting

In my opinion, Thirty-One Gifts consulting is one of the more unique ways that military wives work from home. Thirty-One Gifts promotes stylish and creative gifts with the intent on simplifying and organizing your life. They also boast an honor system regarding the truthful reporting of their consultants’ earnings. Military spouse, Nyssa Bryant, has enjoyed her time working as a Thirty-One Gifts consultant.

I basically do parties with them, some in home, some catalog and some online. At a party, we play a few games, talk about the products and exchange what uses we’ve found for each product. I decided to go with Thirty-One because I love their products, they have tons of training and everyone is very friendly. They also do a lot within the community to empower women and young girls.

Interested wives may help by hosting parties or can become a Thirty-One Gifts consultant for $99, to include stock and training. For more information, contact Nyssa Bryant! or learn more about Thirty-One Gifts here!

The Pampered Chef Consulting

One of my favorite things about The Pampered Chef’s consulting program is that you do not need to buy their products for resale. As a Pampered Chef fan, the %20 discount is nice too! Arguably one of the longest-running home business enablers, The Pampered Chef has garnered a wonderful reputation for household and kitchenware. Like many military wives, Wendy Northrip has established herself as a Pampered Chef consultant.

I chose it because I wanted all the amazing products that come in the consultant kit. I have been selling for over a year now because I love all the free product that I continue to get. They have amazing products that last forever. Very little effort required… the Pampered Chef name sells itself.

With Pampered Chef you can earn a minimum of 20% off your sales. You also earn a percentage off of anyone who you recruit. To find out how to get started with The Pampered Chef, reach out to Wendy Northrip!

It Works! Independent Distributing

It Works! is a company that has all natural health and beauty products including detox wraps for tightening and firming problems areas, health products and supplements, and a skin care line. It’s easy to sign up to become a distributor and it only costs $99, which you make back in sales with the first set of wraps that you get for signing up. The compensation plan is the richest one out of the It Works! program compared to other home businesses. And like some, you get the opportunity to build your own team. Dana Crandall-Sparks was turned on to It Works! distributing after finding that she believed in the all-natural product line.

I chose to be a part of this company because the products really work, the products are all natural with their ingredients, the pay is great, and I loved seeing the results people had and being a part of that.

Dana is enthusiastic about being an It Works! Independent Distributor. To her, being a rep is fun and easy. She’s just sharing with others about the product she believes in and allows them to try it. For more information about becoming an It Works! distributor, contact Dana Crandall-Sparks or learn more a her web site!

Passion Consulting

Passion Parties is about empowering women and keeping the flame in the bedroom! I believe that good communication starts with a passionate love life, and Passion Parties aims to strengthen the bond between couples. As a home business, money can be made as a consultant or discounted products can be earned for aiding a consultant as a party host. Passion Consultant, Ashlynne Brown, has made herself known among military wives in her community.

I chose Passion Parties because I can do a girls night in or a couples evening together. I also feel like our names of the products are favorable than others and prices are cheaper!

For those of you who are a little more on the wild side, or genuinely believe in promoting a wonderful sex life, I highly encourage you to contact Ashlynne Brown to learn how you can turn your Passion into a business.

So, can Military Wives work from home? Absolutely! What are some other ways you ladies have earned income from home? Please share! I’m always interested in finding new ways to start a business and supporting our community! For those of you who don’t know, Basewives is on the look-out for blog authors! If you’re interested, please contact me!

Oahu Family Photography

Oahu Family Photography

I am very excited to announce the opening of a new business venture of mine, Life In A Lense Photography. I have always had a passion for photography. Now I am turning that passion into something to share with others. I don’t consider myself a professional. Instead, I am an excited and talented family photographer like many other Oahu family photographers. I promote my business as an Oahu photography company. I am confident that my experience and portfolio will become stronger and I will grow among other Oahu family photographers.

I am excited for this challenge and nervous at the same time! I feel crazy trying to take on a new venture while raising four small boys, having a husband in the military who also has manages his own businesses and a home to run, but I am incredibly excited for the challenge! I am nervous about my first family photography session but dying to meet my first client. I would love to look back in 5 years with a successful business, read back on this blog and remember all those feelings of starting out and accomplishment. Of course, I am only here locally as an Oahu family photographer, but please support the Life in a Lense Facebook Page! If you are based in Oahu, feel free to set up a family photography session!

Right now I am offering Oahu family photography sessions up to 50 professionally edited photos for $50. You will receive Full Rights to all of your photos as well as a password protected web site where you can download and save your photos. I do not charge anything extra – ever! Let me know if you’d like an incredibly affordable photography session!

Oahu Family Photography

Have a great 4th of July, ladies!

- Ashley

MCBH Military Wife Crafts Quality into Success!

Have you ever wanted to find some incredibly creative ideas but didn’t know where to look? If you’re a military wife like me, you love to add cute decorations to the theme of your home, especially unique and useful creations. Purchasing mass-produced items has always seemed a little dull to me. When I purchase handcrafted items such as photo-frames, decorative wreaths, or custom-made NFL countdown blocks, I’m kind of picky about the quality I receive. Erin Jamison of A Girl and Her Craftbox Designs has committed to bringing quality custom-designs to her customers. What I specifically love is that she’s a military wife like me and I love to support you gals whenever I can!