I am sure we have all seen it, the parents at the BBQ having one too many drinks. Or how about yourself, too many beers on Fourth of July? How should drinking be handled when we have children? While they are awake is it okay or should they be asleep for the night?
I use to be a heavy drinker. My weekend nights (and even some weeknights) consisted of getting off work, getting ready and heading out for a night worth of drinking and partying. How times have changed! Since having my first son, Kellan, I slowly gave up alcohol. If my husband had our son or one of the grandparents I would try to spend a night with my friends and some drinks. Though it slowly began to become less and less of a fun time for me. This giant sense of responsibility and feelings on how I feel I should act now as a mother had taken over.
My beliefs have greatly changed over the years. I do not think it is appropriate for both my husband and myself to be drinking heavily at the same time. (And by heavily I don’t necessarily mean drinking a 12 pack each but rather heavily in the context that we weren’t sober enough to drive if needed.) What about after the kids go to bed, isn’t it ok to both be heavily drinking? In my opinion, no. I still think of the worst case scenario. What if someone gets sick in the middle of the night or needs to be rushed to the hospital? I can’t afford to be passed out or unable to drive in the event that one of my kids needs me.
Or what about being hung over the next day? It isn’t fair to my kids to spend a day with their mom and dad laying around since they drank too much the night before. Now granted some events will come up and you will end up drinking and getting a hang over. I have been there even since having kids, it happens sometimes. I do not think it is appropriate for parents of young children to have people over drinking until late at night more than half of the week. I also don’t think that just because it is a holiday or an event of some sort means you should have to have alcohol. Is that what we want to teach our kids? Associate drinking with every good time?
How do you feel? Are you okay with weekend drinking and having young kids?